When going through a divorce, it’s easy to lose perspective and start arguing over things that really don’t matter. What might seem important in the moment can often feel trivial later. People end up squabbling over the smallest details adding unnecessary stress to an already challenging situation. These disputes don’t just create tension—they can also increase the cost of your divorce, as every argument drags out the process and racks up legal fees. Let’s take a look at some of the pointless things people fight over during a divorce and why it’s better to let them go.
Fighting Over Hours with Your Child
One thing that often comes up is parents fighting over the exact number of hours they spend with their kids. It’s easy to get caught up in trying to make sure you have exactly the same amount of time as your ex. But this can cause more harm than good. Instead of focusing on the hours, think about the quality of the time you spend with your child. After all, your child will remember the special moments you create together, not how many hours you had.
Arguing Over Used Furniture
Surprisingly, couples often argue over furniture that’s already worn out. You might have spent a lot of money on it when you bought it, but years later, it’s not worth nearly as much. Some people get so attached to the idea of keeping things from the marriage that they’ll fight over something that’s now worth what you’d get at a yard sale. Before you let it turn into a big deal, ask yourself if it’s really worth the hassle and the expense to fight over a sentimental item.
Taking Anger Out on Belongings
Sometimes, when one person is angry, they take it out on their spouse’s belongings. This can go beyond just hiding things—some people destroy or damage their ex’s belongings on purpose. In extreme cases, people have shredded clothes or even taken things like outlet covers from the walls so their ex wouldn’t benefit from them! Not only does this create more tension, but it also delays the divorce process, causes even more antagonism, is more costly in attorney’s fees and potentially could result in sanctions against the destructive spouse.
Fussing Over Your Child’s Clothes and Possessions
Some parents argue about what their kids wear or items they bring when they switch between houses. For example, one parent may insist that the child changes clothes the moment they arrive. This can make the child feel uncomfortable and stuck in the middle of the fight. In some cases, parents even fight over toys or gifts the child brings between homes. Instead of creating more stress and more damage to your child, let your child enjoy the things they love, no matter where they are staying.
Bad-Mouthing Your Ex in Front of the Kids
One of the worst things you can do during a divorce is talk badly about your ex to your children. Even if you don’t think they’re listening, kids hear more than you realize. When you criticize their other parent, it hurts them, too. They’re part of both of you, and negative comments can make them feel torn between the two people they love most. If you need to vent, talk to a friend or a counselor at a time when you don’t have your kids.
Conclusion
Divorces are hard, but fighting over small things like hours, furniture, or your child’s clothes just makes it harder. The important thing is to stay focused on what really matters, like your children’s well-being and moving forward with your life.
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